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Confidence

Hello,

Ask any woman about the one thing that they find most attractive in a man and they will tell you that it is confidence. Ask any dating guru about the top three characteristics a man should develop to become successful with women and his answer will include confidence. Ask any billionaire what the most important thing to achieving unparalleled success is and he will say that it’s self-confidence.

It’s no secret that confidence is one of the most essential ingredients for success, not only with women but in any area of life. But the infuriating thing about confidence is that it can sometimes be hard to define. In fact, for every hundred people that tell you that to succeed you must become confident, only one will actually be able to tell you how to go about becoming confident.

I’m a strong believer that it is in fact competence that breeds confidence. The only way to feel confident doing something is to do it a thousand and one times. Lionel Messi is confident in front of goal because he feels competent. He knows that he’s scored this exact same goal, from this exact same angle a thousand times in training, so he has no reason to doubt his self-confidence.

Richard Branson feels confident taking a risky business decision because he’s made a thousand risky decisions that have taught him to trust his gut instinct. Likewise, the successful ladies man is self-confident when interacting with women because he’s pushed himself into a similar situation a thousand times before.

But what happens when a person has deep rooted fears and anxiety issues that stand in the way of becoming competent? For example, a person who falls off a horse and is seriously injured will know that the best way to become confident on horseback again is to get back in the saddle as soon as possible. But sometimes he or she might not be able to do so because of the deep rooted anxiety associated with riding horseback.

Likewise, a man might have a crippling case of social anxiety because of a traumatic and embarrassing experience from his past which makes it damn near impossible for him to contemplate approaching a strange woman. In such a case, approaching a thousand women to become confident with women really isn’t an option.

This is why hypnosis is such a great tool for building confidence when the usual route of building competence isn’t an option. For one, hypnosis can help you change the way your mind perceives past experiences that might have a negative effect on your current state.

For example, if a man has had an incredibly embarrassing experience in his childhood with girls, and is therefore afraid of interacting with women, hypnosis can help him banish the negative feelings associated with the memories and re-mould his perceptions of what interacting with women involves.

For example, if could be that a girl rejected him in front of a whole room of people in third grade and he was ridiculed and called out on it for a year. Hypnosis would help such a man disassociate the negative emotions related to this experience and reengineer his perception of what interacting with women will be like.

Lack of confidence is closely tied with uncertainty and the fear of the unknown. A lot of people do not feel confident in certain situations in life because they are uncertain of what the outcome would be. For example, a man might not feel confident approaching strange women because he’s uncertain of what kind of responses he’d receive from them and because his mind keeps delving into all sorts of worst-case scenarios that could occur.

Hypnosis can help in such an instance by removing negative feelings and replacing them with positive thoughts and emotions. For example, by using hypnosis you can program your mind to associate feelings of confidence and self-worth with the act of approaching women. Hypnosis can also help by enabling you to mentally rehearse specific situations in your mind and establish triggers for positive emotions when faced with these situations.

For example, hypnosis can be used to rehearse the act of approaching a beautiful woman in public and can also be used to instill triggers for good emotions when thinking about doing it. So that when you finally do approach a woman in public, these triggers will be activated and you will be filled with positive emotions.

Not only has hypnosis been shown to be extremely effective in alleviating feelings of anxiety and stress and improving confidence, it is also extremely easy to learn and administer. The days of consulting expensive hypnotherapists to deal with your issues are long passed. These days there are countless programs offering guidance for self-hypnosis sessions designed to tackle your confidence issues.

I myself have put together a five part audio program called Radical Inner Game that uses hypnosis and self-hypnosis techniques to help you harness the power of your subconscious mind to improve your confidence and all other aspects of your dating life.

All the best,

Tony

Inner Game and the Keys to Confidence

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Inner Game Confidence

‘Just be confident.’

This is probably the most clichéd and overused piece of dating advice that men have been inundated with since forever. But as clichéd and overused as it is, it’s also part of a much larger truth.

Ask a bunch of women about the one most important quality that they look for in a man and most of them will say confidence.

There is no woman in this world that wakes up each day hoping that she will meet a man that will spout a few funny lines, pull out a few magic stunts and trick her into falling into bed with him. Every woman starts her day hoping that she will meet a man that will sweep her off her feet, tell her things she’s never heard before and lead her from adventure to adventure with confidence.

The tragic setback facing most men is that no one ever really answers the question of what confidence is. The term confidence in itself is a fairly amorphous one, but the definition that I most identify it with is this – “Appearing confident is not about expressing confidence. It’s about confidently expressing everything else.” So how do you go about confidently expressing everything else?

Confidence isn’t something that a select few are magically born with – there is no confidence gene. Confidence is more often a state of being that a person achieves over time by doing certain things over and over until they feel confident doing it.

Michael Jordan feels confident shooting from the three point line because he’s made every imaginable shot from it a thousand times before. Lionel Messi feels confident in front of goal because he’s scored from every imaginable angle and every conceivable situation a thousand times before. Like Bruce Lee himself said, “I fear not the man who has practiced 10,000 kicks once, but I fear the man who has practiced one kick 10,000 times.”

So in reality, it is competence that breeds confidence. And as with any pursuit in life, in seduction too it is competence that will ultimately develop your confidence.

More often than not, would be PUAs and seducers fall into the trap of looking for magic bullets that claim to solidify your inner game and help you achieve confidence without every leaving the comforts of your own house. But inner game isn’t simply some computer program that can be installed instantaneously into your brain, Matrix style.

Building strong inner game involves going out into the field, failing a thousand times and learning a thousand different lessons until you eventually see the world around you free of the mind’s negative spins and interpretations.

For example, one of the hardest hurdles for a beginner PUA to overcome is approach anxiety.

Walking up to a beautiful woman and trying to start up a conversation is more often scarier than bungee jumping off a cliff with a twenty year old rope.

And the beginner PUA isn’t helped by his inner voice that will keep whispering that he’s not interesting enough to hold a beautiful woman’s attention, or the social fear that tells him that everyone in the room will end up laughing at him for being a weirdo.

Developing a strong inner game involves approaching a hundred beautiful women and replacing the doubts from your inner voice by realizing that just by approaching her and relating to her as a human being you’re saving her from the constant boredom of being treated as just a pretty fair and nice body.

And eventually a strong inner game will replace social fears associated with rejection with the awareness that the people around you are too worried about what everyone else thinks about them to spare you too much thought.

Another important thing to remember about inner game and confidence is that inner game isn’t just limited to seducing women. Developing strong inner game involves crafting a strong and desirable identity that is congruent with your seducer’s character.

A pickup artiste without a strong identity is just a wannabe spouting a bunch of made-up lines and routines. Without a strong identity, there is nothing for a woman to be fascinated by and be attracted to.

It doesn’t really make a difference if you’re a rock star, a movie star or an architect or an accountant, the trick with strong inner game is owning your identity. Don’t be the boring guy that just tells a woman that he’s an architect. Be the man that owns the character by telling a woman that you help make your city’s skyline look good.

There is a saying that confidence is about ‘faking it till you make it.’ While this is true in some sense, the process of developing a strong inner game really alleviates the need to fake anything.

Developing a strong inner game will help you embrace yourself, flaws and all, and see the world around you with a perspective that is fresh and full of possibility, helping you become a confident man that every woman hopes of crossing paths with.

The Path To Self-Improvement. Being the Best Version of Yourself

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Inner game, self improvement

Inner game, self improvement

Hey there,

The biggest lie that a man learning to approach and attract women hears is that he should “be himself.” But I have a question for you. If you are overweight, broke, socially awkward and dress like Big Bird, should you still be yourself? I don’t think so!

I think that people get it wrong when they tell someone to be themselves. Because at the end of the day, who you are is not a fixed measure.

For example, think about yourself before college and after college. The chances are that you’ll see yourself as more mature and worldly. So who you are today, is a direct result of the choices you made and the actions you took in your past.

Which means that at any given point in time, you can change the person that you are going to be.

Be your best self

The one thing that I tell my students as far as self-improvement goes is to always focus on being their best self. And this is where your ability to be honest with yourself is important. At the end of the day, the biggest and worse lies that we tell are often the lies that we tell ourselves.

So before you can even think about becoming the best version of yourself, you need to identify the areas in which you aren’t being the best you can possibly be. Once you do this, you can start figuring out how to better yourself in these areas.

Be ambitious

Here’s the thing, to a woman, the potential for success is as attractive as actual success. You might not drive a Ferrari and you might not own a condo, but if a woman knows that you are far beyond driven in whatever field you work in, she’ll recognise that and find that incredible attractive.

So find things that you are passionate about and become good at them. And listen, it doesn’t matter if you want to become a movie star or a super star investment advisor, what’s important that you own it and become the best at it. A quality woman is more likely to fall for the banker who’s great at what he does than a rock star who can’t get 20 people to come see his show.

Develop your social circle

We humans are more social than we’ve ever been in history. So the social circles that we are a part of are more important than they’ve ever been before. And I don’t mean just in terms of women and seduction, even when it comes to business and success, the people you have around you can have a huge impact on who you are and how you function.

So take a look at your current social circle and think about if you’re surrounded by people who you want to be like. If the answer is no, go out and make friends with men who are already successful at what you want to do. When a woman enters into a romantic relationship with you, this often means that she’ll be interacting with your immediate social circle. So make it one that she’ll want to be a part of.

Develop your social skills

I truly believe that at the end of the day, your social skills are far more attractive to a woman than your success, wealth or fame. Think about it. Cyndi Lauper was right. Girls do just want to have fun. Women want a man who can comfortably and easily handle any social situation.

A woman wants to be with the guy that everyone wants to talk to. She wants to be with the guy who’ll take her from one exciting social setting to the other and help her discover new people and adventures. So if you’re shy, awkward and socially inept, work on it. Go out and meet new people. In fact, forget about meeting women for a while. Focus on being able to meet and have fun with absolute strangers. And while you’re doing this, you’ll actually find that women are inexplicably draw towards you.

Develop style

I’m not going to lie; looking like Brad Pitt isn’t ever going to hurt your chances in the dating game. But not all of us looks like Brad Pitt. But here’s the thing, there’s a difference between how you look and how you present yourself. So even if you don’t have movie-star-like good looks, it doesn’t mean that you can’t dress the part.

Study some of your favourite actors and musicians, and read through a few men’s style magazines and figure out a style that works for you. Or even better, find a female friend who’s willing to help you develop your own unique avatar. At the end of the day, you could be just an accountant, but that doesn’t mean that you can’t look like a rock star.

Groom well

Nothing is more unattractive to a woman than laziness, and nothing screams laziness as loudly as bad grooming. Now I’m not saying that you need to shape your eyebrows and wax your chest hair every week, but take care of your simple grooming tasks. It will convey that you are a man who takes his body and his image seriously, and this is attractive to a woman.

Let’s face it; none of the great seducers of this world are born that way. Some might have childhoods that open up their minds to the workings of the opposite sex better, but in general, every great seducer is the product of countless hours of working at improving themselves. So I hope that this article will help you become the best version of yourself and the best seducer that you could possibly be.