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Building Unshakable Confidence with Women Using a Certified Medical Tool

 

Confidence

Hello,

Ask any woman about the one thing that they find most attractive in a man and they will tell you that it is confidence. Ask any dating guru about the top three characteristics a man should develop to become successful with women and his answer will include confidence. Ask any billionaire what the most important thing to achieving unparalleled success is and he will say that it’s self-confidence.

It’s no secret that confidence is one of the most essential ingredients for success, not only with women but in any area of life. But the infuriating thing about confidence is that it can sometimes be hard to define. In fact, for every hundred people that tell you that to succeed you must become confident, only one will actually be able to tell you how to go about becoming confident.

I’m a strong believer that it is in fact competence that breeds confidence. The only way to feel confident doing something is to do it a thousand and one times. Lionel Messi is confident in front of goal because he feels competent. He knows that he’s scored this exact same goal, from this exact same angle a thousand times in training, so he has no reason to doubt his self-confidence.

Richard Branson feels confident taking a risky business decision because he’s made a thousand risky decisions that have taught him to trust his gut instinct. Likewise, the successful ladies man is self-confident when interacting with women because he’s pushed himself into a similar situation a thousand times before.

But what happens when a person has deep rooted fears and anxiety issues that stand in the way of becoming competent? For example, a person who falls off a horse and is seriously injured will know that the best way to become confident on horseback again is to get back in the saddle as soon as possible. But sometimes he or she might not be able to do so because of the deep rooted anxiety associated with riding horseback.

Likewise, a man might have a crippling case of social anxiety because of a traumatic and embarrassing experience from his past which makes it damn near impossible for him to contemplate approaching a strange woman. In such a case, approaching a thousand women to become confident with women really isn’t an option.

This is why hypnosis is such a great tool for building confidence when the usual route of building competence isn’t an option. For one, hypnosis can help you change the way your mind perceives past experiences that might have a negative effect on your current state.

For example, if a man has had an incredibly embarrassing experience in his childhood with girls, and is therefore afraid of interacting with women, hypnosis can help him banish the negative feelings associated with the memories and re-mould his perceptions of what interacting with women involves.

For example, if could be that a girl rejected him in front of a whole room of people in third grade and he was ridiculed and called out on it for a year. Hypnosis would help such a man disassociate the negative emotions related to this experience and reengineer his perception of what interacting with women will be like.

Lack of confidence is closely tied with uncertainty and the fear of the unknown. A lot of people do not feel confident in certain situations in life because they are uncertain of what the outcome would be. For example, a man might not feel confident approaching strange women because he’s uncertain of what kind of responses he’d receive from them and because his mind keeps delving into all sorts of worst-case scenarios that could occur.

Hypnosis can help in such an instance by removing negative feelings and replacing them with positive thoughts and emotions. For example, by using hypnosis you can program your mind to associate feelings of confidence and self-worth with the act of approaching women. Hypnosis can also help by enabling you to mentally rehearse specific situations in your mind and establish triggers for positive emotions when faced with these situations.

For example, hypnosis can be used to rehearse the act of approaching a beautiful woman in public and can also be used to instill triggers for good emotions when thinking about doing it. So that when you finally do approach a woman in public, these triggers will be activated and you will be filled with positive emotions.

Not only has hypnosis been shown to be extremely effective in alleviating feelings of anxiety and stress and improving confidence, it is also extremely easy to learn and administer. The days of consulting expensive hypnotherapists to deal with your issues are long passed. These days there are countless programs offering guidance for self-hypnosis sessions designed to tackle your confidence issues.

I myself have put together a five part audio program called Radical Inner Game that uses hypnosis and self-hypnosis techniques to help you harness the power of your subconscious mind to improve your confidence and all other aspects of your dating life.

All the best,

Tony

Inner Game and the Keys to Confidence

Inner Game Confidence

‘Just be confident.’

This is probably the most clichéd and overused piece of dating advice that men have been inundated with since forever. But as clichéd and overused as it is, it’s also part of a much larger truth.

Ask a bunch of women about the one most important quality that they look for in a man and most of them will say confidence.

There is no woman in this world that wakes up each day hoping that she will meet a man that will spout a few funny lines, pull out a few magic stunts and trick her into falling into bed with him. Every woman starts her day hoping that she will meet a man that will sweep her off her feet, tell her things she’s never heard before and lead her from adventure to adventure with confidence.

The tragic setback facing most men is that no one ever really answers the question of what confidence is. The term confidence in itself is a fairly amorphous one, but the definition that I most identify it with is this – “Appearing confident is not about expressing confidence. It’s about confidently expressing everything else.” So how do you go about confidently expressing everything else?

Confidence isn’t something that a select few are magically born with – there is no confidence gene. Confidence is more often a state of being that a person achieves over time by doing certain things over and over until they feel confident doing it.

Michael Jordan feels confident shooting from the three point line because he’s made every imaginable shot from it a thousand times before. Lionel Messi feels confident in front of goal because he’s scored from every imaginable angle and every conceivable situation a thousand times before. Like Bruce Lee himself said, “I fear not the man who has practiced 10,000 kicks once, but I fear the man who has practiced one kick 10,000 times.”

So in reality, it is competence that breeds confidence. And as with any pursuit in life, in seduction too it is competence that will ultimately develop your confidence.

More often than not, would be PUAs and seducers fall into the trap of looking for magic bullets that claim to solidify your inner game and help you achieve confidence without every leaving the comforts of your own house. But inner game isn’t simply some computer program that can be installed instantaneously into your brain, Matrix style.

Building strong inner game involves going out into the field, failing a thousand times and learning a thousand different lessons until you eventually see the world around you free of the mind’s negative spins and interpretations.

For example, one of the hardest hurdles for a beginner PUA to overcome is approach anxiety.

Walking up to a beautiful woman and trying to start up a conversation is more often scarier than bungee jumping off a cliff with a twenty year old rope.

And the beginner PUA isn’t helped by his inner voice that will keep whispering that he’s not interesting enough to hold a beautiful woman’s attention, or the social fear that tells him that everyone in the room will end up laughing at him for being a weirdo.

Developing a strong inner game involves approaching a hundred beautiful women and replacing the doubts from your inner voice by realizing that just by approaching her and relating to her as a human being you’re saving her from the constant boredom of being treated as just a pretty fair and nice body.

And eventually a strong inner game will replace social fears associated with rejection with the awareness that the people around you are too worried about what everyone else thinks about them to spare you too much thought.

Another important thing to remember about inner game and confidence is that inner game isn’t just limited to seducing women. Developing strong inner game involves crafting a strong and desirable identity that is congruent with your seducer’s character.

A pickup artiste without a strong identity is just a wannabe spouting a bunch of made-up lines and routines. Without a strong identity, there is nothing for a woman to be fascinated by and be attracted to.

It doesn’t really make a difference if you’re a rock star, a movie star or an architect or an accountant, the trick with strong inner game is owning your identity. Don’t be the boring guy that just tells a woman that he’s an architect. Be the man that owns the character by telling a woman that you help make your city’s skyline look good.

There is a saying that confidence is about ‘faking it till you make it.’ While this is true in some sense, the process of developing a strong inner game really alleviates the need to fake anything.

Developing a strong inner game will help you embrace yourself, flaws and all, and see the world around you with a perspective that is fresh and full of possibility, helping you become a confident man that every woman hopes of crossing paths with.

The Seducer’s Body Language, Are You Sending The Right Attractive Message?

Inner Game, Dating

Inner Game, Seducer

Hey,

Whenever I take on a new student, the first questions that they almost always ask me deal with what exactly they should say to a girl.

So it surprises them when I tell them to forget about what they’re saying, and to think about how they’re saying it.

You see, over 90% of our communication as human beings is non-verbal. And that’s not just me saying so. Scientists have researched this and put the figure at roughly 97%.
But I don’t want you to think about this in terms of figures and percentages. All I want you to grasp is the fact that the significant bulk of our communication is non-verbal.

For example, have you ever been in a situation where you’ve gone up to a girl and used an opener that’s been tried and tested by thousands of guys, only to get shot down?

Well, since the opener has worked for guys before you, it makes sense to think that it’s not the exact words you’re saying, but how you’re saying them that’s the problem.

So in today’s article, I want to talk a bit about how to learn and develop a seducer’s body language.

Smile

A common mistake that a lot of guys getting into the game make is that they get obsessed with looking “cool” or “tough.”
But here’s the thing, if you’re walking around with a serious and grim expression on your face, the chances are that you’re giving off the vibe that you are a boring, unhappy person.

And boring and unexciting isn’t something that an attractive woman wants in her life.

So from today I want you to work on having a nice and easy smile on your face BEFORE you approach a woman. You see, smiles are infectious.
And if you already have a smile on your face when a woman first makes eye contact with you, the chances are that she’ll return it out of reflex; which then sets a warm and open vibe for you to start the interaction with.

Another mistake that a lot of men make is that they wait for a woman to make eye contact with them before smiling full-tilt.
The problem here is that this can sometimes make a woman feel like she’s being put on the spot and make her uncomfortable. So it’s far more powerful to already be smiling by the time she makes eye contact with you.

Hold strong eye contact

Strong eye contact is one of the most powerful weapons in a seducer’s arsenal. But sadly it’s also one of the most under-used.

Holding strong eye contact might at first feel uncomfortable and even unnatural to you.

But holding strong eye contact lets a woman know that you are confident and at ease with the interaction, which in turn puts her at ease.

Whereas if your eyes are darting all over the place while talking to her, you’re likely to come off as nervous and shy, and the chances are that this will make her feel more and more uncomfortable being in the interaction.

Now remember, I’m not saying that you should creepily stare into a woman’s eyes the whole time you talk to her. That’ll probably just make her nervous or scare her off.
Just focus on maintaining steady and comfortable eye contact. Don’t look away when you’re telling her something; especially if it’s something flirtatious.

Focus on doing this and I guarantee that you’ll notice a distinct change in the way that women respond to you.

Take up space

The rule of thumb is the more relaxed you look, the more confident you will seem. When you’re starting out it’s normal to feel nervous and frazzled.

But try not to let this affect your physiology. You see, we can actually reverse engineer our brains into feeling at ease and confident by putting our body in a relaxed and comfortable state.

But remember, as always, balance is key. Taking up enough space to be comfortable is the sign of a strong and confident man. Taking up any more space just looks lazy and weird.

Move with purpose

The movements of a seducer should be like that of a martial artiste; calm, but purposeful, subtle but assured. Whenever you’re in a social gathering, the chances are that any woman that you end up approaching will have already seen you and sized you up, before you’ve even made eye contact with her.

So if a woman sees you moving around in a fidgety and awkward way, the chances are that even if you come up with the most brilliant opener, she’ll be a bit reluctant to let the interaction progress.
Now remember, I’m not saying that you should walk around like a military man all the time. Just stand up straight, hold your chest out, let your hands hang comfortably at your side and move like you know exactly where you’re going.

This will leave a powerful impression on any woman that sees you and the chances are that she’ll be much warmer to your approach as a result.

Keep your gestures under control

If you’ve ever watched a great speaker or performer on stage, you’ll notice that they use their gestures sparingly but effectively. Every single movement they make with their hands is in sync with what they’re saying and only makes their words seem more powerful, and never distracts the listener from them.

So work on using your gestures to emphasize what you’re saying, and also learn to stay still when listening. This will convey calmness and confidence, and will make a woman feel more at ease interacting with you.

Be comfortable with touch

A lot of men often refrain from ever touching a woman until they finally work up the courage to make a move on her.
But the problem with this is that at that point it can feel so sudden that it’ll almost certainly feel uncomfortable. So instead learn to touch women casually from the beginning of the interaction.

Remember, don’t go overboard with this. Nobody wants their personal space invaded or to be groped awkwardly.
Just light touches on the shoulder and the occasional hug will show her that you are comfortable and at ease with her and it will make her more relaxed with you.

Great body language isn’t something that you can just read and learn overnight.

So to really make use of this article, what I want you to do is understand and internalize these concepts, and then work on consciously applying these ideas into your day to day interactions.

Stick with it and correct yourself often, and before you know it, you’ll be moving and talking like a true seducer.

Take care,

Tony

Do You Have Game? What It Takes To Become a Master Seducer

Radical Inner Game

So what really is game? How do we define it, and how exactly do we go about getting it?

It’s these two questions that I want to dive into in today’s article. You see, game is a pretty illusive concept. For instance, just because you know a hundred different openers and a few dozen routines doesn’t mean you have game.

In fact, there are thousands of guys out there who don’t know any openers or any routines, and still have more game than half of today’s pickup gurus put together.

So here’s how I define game – You have game when you are able to successfully open, attract, build comfort with and seduce a woman. Simple as that.
There’s no need to complicate things with technical jargon and theories; like we sometimes tend to in the pickup community.

Can you open?

Opening is the first and most crucial step of any seduction scenario. I mean, let’s be honest. If you can’t open a woman you can’t really attract her. And if you can’t attract her, you definitely can’t seduce her.

So ask yourself this: can you walk up to an unknown woman – without freezing up, chickening out or making her want to throw her drink at you off the bat – and initiate an interaction in a way that will make her curious about you? If you cannot, then you, my friend, lack the first and most important component of great game.

Now don’t get me wrong, if you’re new to this you will freeze up, you will chicken out, and you will probably get blown out in the most humiliating of ways at the start. But that’s just part of the learning curve. Put yourself out there and treat every interaction as an opportunity to learn.

Sure you might make a few girls nervous at first, but that’ll teach you to approach in a non-threatening way. Sure you might bore a few girls at first, but you’ll also learn about energy levels and conversation skills. Sure you might even have a few drinks thrown at you, but you’ll learn to be outcome independent and not take yourself too seriously. And before you know it, you’ll be able to open any woman in any given situation.

Can you create attraction?

Have you ever been in a situation where you’ve started a conversation up with an attractive woman and felt her interest seem to decline as the interaction progresses?

More often than not this is a result of a failure to build attraction and keep things moving towards a romantic or sexual outcome. You see, attractive women don’t have time to keep making friends with every guy who comes and starts up a conversation with them. Sure, some of them may be nice and polite, but the chances are that if you’re not going to man up and keep things moving forward, she’s going to get bored and move on.

Here’s the thing, it doesn’t matter if you’re an opening machine and can start up a conversation with any woman. If you can’t move the interaction forward and build attraction, you’re missing another crucial component of game.

So once you’ve mastered the task of opening, focus on being able to generate attraction. Pay attention to the things you do that seem to get a girl interested in you. For example, if you notice that she twirls her hair and playfully slaps you on the arm every time you tease her, you need to make note to do this more.

Learning to build attraction takes time, simply because there are such a huge variety of factors that play a part in making a woman feel attracted to you. But stick at it, learn and be observant, and soon you’ll know exactly what you need to say and do to each and every type of woman to make her feel attracted to you.

Can you build comfort?

Now I’m not going to tell you that every woman wants the same thing from a man, but almost every girl needs to feel some sort of comfort before she’ll be ready to jump into bed with you. Some girls might want to know that you’re up for a long term commitment, and some girls might just need to know that you’ll call them the day after.

And some might simply want to know that you’ll at least drop them home after. My point is that if you don’t know how to create this level of comfort with a girl, you’re lacking another important component of game.

So what does it take to build comfort? A girl will feel comfortable enough to go home with you when she feels that she can trust you and that she has rapport with you.

For instance, you can build trust by letting her see how you take care of your friends and the people around you. And you can build rapport by finding commonalities and things that you are both passionate about.

Can you seduce her?

The two biggest obstacles in pickup are opening and seduction. And let’s be honest, if doesn’t mean jack if you can open, attract and build comfort with a girl if you can’t eventually seduce her. The ability to successfully seduce a woman is the fourth and last component of great game, without which all other aspects of game become useless.

Do you have confidence?

At the end of the day, the most important factor towards great game is the confidence to put all of this together. Because you see, game, isn’t just a collection of routines and gimmicks. It’s actually a state of mind. A way of being. And the only way to develop confidence in your game is by becoming competent at it. And the only way to do that is to actively learn and develop these four aspects of game that I’ve spoken about above.

Let’s be honest; this article alone isn’t going to teach you great game. And the point of it isn’t to teach you great game. What I hope that you take away from this article is the ability to honestly analyze your game in terms of your opening skills, attraction building abilities, comfort building abilities and seduction techniques, and work on whichever areas that you may be lacking in. And once you do that, you will well and truly have game.

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Businesswoman Surrounded by Robots

Be a Natural, Not a Social Robot

Have you ever noticed how guys that are naturally good with women often seem to be good with people in general?

In fact, if you observe these ‘naturals’ in a social setting, you’ll notice that it’s not only beautiful women that respond and gravitate toward them, but every single person that they come in contact with. While most amateur pickup artistes and seducers are out there trying to chat up the hotties, these naturals are focused on making everyone around them, hot girl or otherwise, feel special.

It’s hard to analyze and quantify what exactly makes a natural, and most of us aren’t lucky enough to inherently posses their social skills. But that doesn’t mean that we can’t learn. Which is where the whole pickup artist subculture and the seduction community comes in. Or so I like to believe.

However, somewhere down the line, things seem to have gone drastically wrong and given birth to the social robot.

Social robots are easy to spot. They’re usually the guys decked out in extravagant getups, jumping in front of women yelling “Stop!” and telling them that their noses wiggle when they laugh. They’re usually the ones whispering to each other about how they locked in with an HB8 while DHVing to HB7 just after they finished a trance pattern on HB10. While the truth is that they’re actually just creeping out everyone around them.

Now don’t get me wrong, I acknowledge all schools of thought within the seduction community and recognize that most of them have their uses. For instance, opinion openers are great for guys that are so terrified of talking to strange women that they need a script to run to actually put themselves in a social situation with one.

But the problem arises when guys that just wanted a way to meet and connect with women get lost in techniques and theories and end up, well, robots that only seem to be able to spout lines and routines and nothing else.

So how do you avoid this trap? How do you follow the path of a natural and escape the trap of becoming a social robot? Well, the first and most crucial step is to move past lines and routines, and instead focus on a certain way of being.

You see, to really be good with women, you need to be able to keep them interested with simple banter. So if you find yourself panicking that you’ve run out of lines or routines, this is a sure sign that you need a serious change in strategy.

Use the lines and routines if you must to get yourself out of the starting blocks, but remember that real seduction isn’t about what you say or do. It’s about the way you are. So instead of focusing on digesting every single seduction manual and learning every routine in the pickup lexicon, focus on learning things, seduction related or otherwise, that will help you become a better man and a better human being.

And sooner or later you’ll find that seducing women becomes a joy and an everyday part of your life, and you’ll find that women seem to gravitate towards you without you even having to say a word.