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The Seducer’s Body Language, Are You Sending The Right Attractive Message?

Inner Game, Dating

Inner Game, Seducer

Hey,

Whenever I take on a new student, the first questions that they almost always ask me deal with what exactly they should say to a girl.

So it surprises them when I tell them to forget about what they’re saying, and to think about how they’re saying it.

You see, over 90% of our communication as human beings is non-verbal. And that’s not just me saying so. Scientists have researched this and put the figure at roughly 97%.
But I don’t want you to think about this in terms of figures and percentages. All I want you to grasp is the fact that the significant bulk of our communication is non-verbal.

For example, have you ever been in a situation where you’ve gone up to a girl and used an opener that’s been tried and tested by thousands of guys, only to get shot down?

Well, since the opener has worked for guys before you, it makes sense to think that it’s not the exact words you’re saying, but how you’re saying them that’s the problem.

So in today’s article, I want to talk a bit about how to learn and develop a seducer’s body language.

Smile

A common mistake that a lot of guys getting into the game make is that they get obsessed with looking “cool” or “tough.”
But here’s the thing, if you’re walking around with a serious and grim expression on your face, the chances are that you’re giving off the vibe that you are a boring, unhappy person.

And boring and unexciting isn’t something that an attractive woman wants in her life.

So from today I want you to work on having a nice and easy smile on your face BEFORE you approach a woman. You see, smiles are infectious.
And if you already have a smile on your face when a woman first makes eye contact with you, the chances are that she’ll return it out of reflex; which then sets a warm and open vibe for you to start the interaction with.

Another mistake that a lot of men make is that they wait for a woman to make eye contact with them before smiling full-tilt.
The problem here is that this can sometimes make a woman feel like she’s being put on the spot and make her uncomfortable. So it’s far more powerful to already be smiling by the time she makes eye contact with you.

Hold strong eye contact

Strong eye contact is one of the most powerful weapons in a seducer’s arsenal. But sadly it’s also one of the most under-used.

Holding strong eye contact might at first feel uncomfortable and even unnatural to you.

But holding strong eye contact lets a woman know that you are confident and at ease with the interaction, which in turn puts her at ease.

Whereas if your eyes are darting all over the place while talking to her, you’re likely to come off as nervous and shy, and the chances are that this will make her feel more and more uncomfortable being in the interaction.

Now remember, I’m not saying that you should creepily stare into a woman’s eyes the whole time you talk to her. That’ll probably just make her nervous or scare her off.
Just focus on maintaining steady and comfortable eye contact. Don’t look away when you’re telling her something; especially if it’s something flirtatious.

Focus on doing this and I guarantee that you’ll notice a distinct change in the way that women respond to you.

Take up space

The rule of thumb is the more relaxed you look, the more confident you will seem. When you’re starting out it’s normal to feel nervous and frazzled.

But try not to let this affect your physiology. You see, we can actually reverse engineer our brains into feeling at ease and confident by putting our body in a relaxed and comfortable state.

But remember, as always, balance is key. Taking up enough space to be comfortable is the sign of a strong and confident man. Taking up any more space just looks lazy and weird.

Move with purpose

The movements of a seducer should be like that of a martial artiste; calm, but purposeful, subtle but assured. Whenever you’re in a social gathering, the chances are that any woman that you end up approaching will have already seen you and sized you up, before you’ve even made eye contact with her.

So if a woman sees you moving around in a fidgety and awkward way, the chances are that even if you come up with the most brilliant opener, she’ll be a bit reluctant to let the interaction progress.
Now remember, I’m not saying that you should walk around like a military man all the time. Just stand up straight, hold your chest out, let your hands hang comfortably at your side and move like you know exactly where you’re going.

This will leave a powerful impression on any woman that sees you and the chances are that she’ll be much warmer to your approach as a result.

Keep your gestures under control

If you’ve ever watched a great speaker or performer on stage, you’ll notice that they use their gestures sparingly but effectively. Every single movement they make with their hands is in sync with what they’re saying and only makes their words seem more powerful, and never distracts the listener from them.

So work on using your gestures to emphasize what you’re saying, and also learn to stay still when listening. This will convey calmness and confidence, and will make a woman feel more at ease interacting with you.

Be comfortable with touch

A lot of men often refrain from ever touching a woman until they finally work up the courage to make a move on her.
But the problem with this is that at that point it can feel so sudden that it’ll almost certainly feel uncomfortable. So instead learn to touch women casually from the beginning of the interaction.

Remember, don’t go overboard with this. Nobody wants their personal space invaded or to be groped awkwardly.
Just light touches on the shoulder and the occasional hug will show her that you are comfortable and at ease with her and it will make her more relaxed with you.

Great body language isn’t something that you can just read and learn overnight.

So to really make use of this article, what I want you to do is understand and internalize these concepts, and then work on consciously applying these ideas into your day to day interactions.

Stick with it and correct yourself often, and before you know it, you’ll be moving and talking like a true seducer.

Take care,

Tony

Radical Inner Game

Panic and the Pendulum – How Hypnosis Can Help Cure Your Anxiety

Hello,

Anxiety is a bit like fear – only a hundred times worse. While with fear you’re usually aware of what you’re afraid of, the thing with anxiety is that its root cause isn’t sometimes as obvious.

Say for example, when you’re afraid of flying, you’re afraid that your plane will come crashing down to the ground in a giant ball of fire. But when you’re anxious about going out in public, you’re not entirely sure what it is you’re afraid of.

Anxiety can be caused by a number of reasons such as environmental factors, medical factors, genetics, brain chemistry and substance abuse. Anxiety is also a very real phenomenon with very real physical symptoms which can include tense muscles, nausea, diarrhea, headaches, an unsettled stomach, heart palpitations, and profuse sweating and flushing.

In this article I’m going to focus on two of the primary causes of anxiety and anxiety attacks which are environmental and external factors, and I’m going to delve into how hypnosis and hypnotherapy can help out.

Some of the most common causes of anxiety are the traumatic events that individuals have experienced in the past. These could be any traumatic event like being subject to abuse, being a victim of bullying or even the sudden loss of a loved one. Such events often have long lasting consequences, which if left untreated and unresolved can often develop into crippling anxiety disorders.

For example, a person who suffered a highly embarrassing incident as a child can develop an intense fear of being humiliated or embarrassed later in life. This is called a Social Anxiety Disorder, and it’s far worse that simply feeling shy or nervous.

People suffering from this disorder will go to great lengths to avoid situations that they feel might trigger their anxiety.  They will often avoid any form of public speaking and interacting with strangers. In more extreme cases, they will even be reluctant to use public restrooms and be averse to even talking on the phone in public.

The thing about the human mind is that its primary goal is to safeguard us from anything that it views as a potential threat. It always seeks to steer us clear of pain and towards pleasure.  So when the mind believes that a particular action or event presents a threat to us, because of what it’s learned from a traumatic experience from our past, it will go to any lengths necessary to avoid it.

For example, say a man suffers from Social Anxiety Disorder. He would find it virtually impossible to talk himself into approaching women because his brain would be hell bent on preventing him from entering such a situation.

Now since the root causes of anxiety are primarily to do with our mind and our subconscious thoughts, it makes sense that it can be dealt with and cured by changing the way we think. And one of the most effective tools in doing that is hypnotherapy.  Not only can it help replace our subconscious thoughts through suggestion, but it can also help us uncover traumatic events from our past and other root causes that are far too deeply embedded for the conscious mind to be aware of.

There are two main forms of Hypnotherapy, which can be used to cure anxiety:

Suggestion Therapy

This is a mild form of hypnotherapy and is often used to cope with mild anxiety issues like exam related stress, driving test related nerves, performance anxiety and other forms of stress. When using Suggestion Therapy to alleviate these types of anxiety problems, usually two to four sessions suffice.

Analytical Therapy

Analytical Therapy is used to cure anxiety issues which are far more deep-rooted. The techniques used in Analytical Hypnotherapy are designed to discover and eradicate the root causes of more serious anxiety problems like irrational fears, emotional problems, psychosexual problems, relationship issues, confidence issues, inferiority complexes, moodiness, sleeping difficulties and stuttering.

Whereas Suggestion Therapy is somewhat like plastering over a wall’s cracks, Analytical Therapy seeks to understand why the cracks appear in the first place, and then deal with them.

Hypnotherapists often use a combination of Analytical and Suggestion Therapy techniques, and they have been proved extremely effective in dealing with various anxiety and stress related issues.

And the great thing about hypnotherapy is that you don’t always need a hypnotherapist to help you get over your anxieties. Especially with anxiety issues that aren’t way out of hand like a mild form of social anxiety, it is possible to use self-hypnosis and affirmations to rid yourself of it.

To learn more about using hypnosis and hypnotherapy to help alleviate any anxiety related issues that are standing the way of your happiness and success, you can visit my website at <Radical Inner Game> where I delve deeper into the topic.

Take care,